From the Rabbi

Why Do You Look So Sad?

In our parsha, Vayeishev, we are introduced to Yosef, described as the favorite son of Yaakov. We see that Yosef is the recipient of special treatment and special gifts – the “coat of many colors”, a shimmering garment that indicated an almost royal status. Yosef’s behavior at the start of the parsha makes us wince – he tattles on his brothers and he behaves arrogantly to them. The coat he wears vexes his brothers. His wild dreams scare them and even make Yaakov cautious. Without excusing the brothers or the horrible thing they did, Yosef seems like a bratty, entitled kid.

Later on though, we see a marked change in Yosef. Rabbi Emanuel Feldman notes that when Yosef, who by then was “famous” prisoner of Pharaoh – a former Chief Executive to a prominent Egyptian family - encountered the baker and butler in prison, he asks them an important question: Why do you look so sad today?

That a prisoner of high stature would notice someone “beneath him” is startling enough, but, as Rabbi Feldman points out, Yosef did not simply say “hello, how are you” – he inquired, deeply and meaningfully, “why do you seem so sad today?”

Noticing the other – to express concern for someone else – is a very Yosef-esque thing to do. Rabbi Feldman develops this theme across Yosef’s life, ultimately offering an answer to the vexing question of why Yosef was never able or willing to send a message to his father to let him know he is alive - simply, Rabbi Feldman suggests, so as not to “risk unleashing [Yaakov’s] wrath upon his brothers.

With Chanukah starting this coming Wednesday night, the special light of the Chanukiah will fill our homes and will reflect out beyond the windows of our houses. Let that special light translate into the light of concern for others  - those closest to us, of course, and those with whom we interact in even the most casual or minimal way.

Shabbat Shalom…Chanukah Sameach!